Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby

August 20, 2007 at 4:12 pm (Love, Masturbation, Relationships, Second Life, Sex)

Kama Sutra Erotic Statues

Lately I have marveled at the growth in traffic to my blog. At first I was flattered, thinking it was my brilliant repartee and ability to coalesce ideas into interesting blog fodder. But upon further inspection into the traffic drivers, I realized I had made a slight but critical change; I added the tag “sex” to the categories. The traffic has grown steadily since then.

So this got me wondering: what’s the deal with all this interest in online sex, Second Life or otherwise? (To come clear, discussing this also gratuitously heightens the likelihood for even greater blog traffic, but I digress.)

I recall upon my arrival in SL being a bit shocked to see all the focus on sex; the sex clubs, pose balls, erotic clothing, the seemingly constant proposals for sex, and endless offers to make money as an escort. That was of course back when I was a SL newb and the idea of watching cartoon sex seemed rather silly to me. My original impression was echoed recently when I met a new SL inductee who likewise balked at the idea of sex between avatars as he struggled to overcome the seedy, nefarious impression he had of it.

All of the skepticism I had around this topic vanished the moment I enjoyed my first sensual/sexual experience in SL. My partner at the time (another relative newcomer) and I used the sexual pose balls we found in someone’s vacant and well-appointed house. And to our surprise we found it astonishingly titillating to watch our naked cartoons going at it. However it was really the erotic prose that was the driving pulse behind my arousal and it literally knocked my socks (and other, *cough*, clothing items) off. I was in awe at the physical reactions my body experienced as a result of the descriptive words my partner and I typed on the screen.

Ok, so I was hooked. I was thrilled to discover a new totally safe and extremely intense form of sexual fantasy that heightened my own personal and private sexual experiences (um, yes Fox News…I’m talking about masturbation). Yay for me right?

But this is not where the story ends, thankfully. Because, you see, an interesting bi-product of this discovery was that my sex in RL got better too–WAY better. I found that by descriptively typing and literally having to break down every provocative step along the path to climax, I became much more aware of the sexy and subtle–albeit critical–little details that were needed to produce intense arousal and impressive foreplay. And I realized somewhat sadly that I had been missing this level of attention to detail in my sexual experiences with my husband for several years; I’d been going through the motions and wondering why sex had become boring.

I’m happy to report my SL and RL sex life is alive and kicking and I couldn’t be happier about it. But I’m curious: is my experience unique? Have others out there noticed your RL sex lives improve because of your SL sexual escapades?


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