For Your A”muse”ment

August 18, 2007 at 4:44 pm (Love, Marriage, Myth, Relationships, Second Life, Sex)

Muse, Felice Ficherelli 1605 - 1660

O Muses, o high genius, aid me now!
O memory that engraved the things I saw,
Here shall your worth be manifest to all!

-Dante Alighieri, The Inferno

The desire to discover one’s purpose in life is not a new tradition, but a lofty and long-sought goal for men and women the world over. This pursuit of purpose has been immortalized in countless books, movies, songs, and poems throughout history. I personally began my quest to unearth my unique raison d’etre when I was quite young and continue this journey even today.

Despite knowing this theme remains so prevalent in real life, I was surprised to notice recently my propensity to question and seek my purpose within my Second Life. Why am I here, I wondered most broadly. But more specifically, what do I bring to my lovers and friends here and what do I receive in return?

As I examined them with greater inquisitive scrutiny, I realized that each of the relationships I have enjoyed since I began my SL journey share a common thread. It seems I have met the most incredible men when they needed me most; each at a time when he hungered for his own unique dose of inspiration, love, and support to help lead him back to the light of his own life (real and virtual) and loves (yes, including RL partners and wives).

I discovered that my role as lover and muse is to listen and lavish upon my beloved the gifts of love, acceptance, self-discovery, and great sex to help him recapture his mojo and gain the strength to take that new-found radiance back into his real life so that all who surround him can enjoy his brilliance once again. I guess you could say I’m a modern-day Mary Poppins or Nanny McPhee for relationships, called upon to help my men find their way back to the selves they lost, the selves they thought they were, or the selves they aspire to be. Or maybe I just simply help them get unstuck.

Now I realize this sounds like I think I’m all that. But I promise I’m not basking in the glow of my own professed self importance. On the contrary, this role, although immensely rewarding in itself, comes with its own price. Because the nature of this “work” is temporary. And like Mary Poppins or Nanny McPhee, I too must someday fly with the shifting winds onto the next who needs my nurturing.

Despite the costs, however, I assure you this is not a one way street. My life has been truly enriched through the friendships I have formed with my SL loves and friends. I’m proud to say I remain friends with ALL of them to this day. And each of them in their own ways have inspired me to dust off the self I once was, find the self I want to be, and let the glimmer of my own radiance shine through. And that, my friends, is as priceless as any gift.

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